From: joy_cook@link.freedom.com
Date: 9/17/2002
Time: 8:43:21 PM
Remote Name: 209.189.103.100
I just had to say make a comment because that response just wasn't what i was looking for, and i'm sure it was not what the girl who wrote it was looking for either. I am your mother. But with the blinders off. You just gave me an inside scoop on what made my teenage daughter hate my husband-her "step" but not really dad. And, more importantly, why. I know that the less you're there the better for you. Hopefully your best friends family is like my daughters and welcomes you with open arms. Until your mother leaves this hubby too, and unless she gets beaten down so severely she HAS to pay attention to what you're really saying, she'll still think you're crazy and imagining things. The night my husband wouldn't listen and wouldn't stop beating me made me realize, hey, this guys a nut, he's not who I thought he was-he's just Ricco Suave' and covered his REAL self up with a bunch of crap. And I believed it for a very long time. Don't dwell too much on what's NOT happening for you now and how you're mom's NOT listening. Just realize you are a very real person and you have nothing to hide. Very soon when you're 18, I'm guessing, you'll be able to start fresh and rebuild your life. Just thank God you aren't your mother because starting OVER again at mid life is truly a VERY scary ordeal. And she might NEVER come to grips with what's really going on and live in Never Never Land forever blissfully stupid. Just don't lose contact of her -she may need you more some day. But don't be very available either. Make yourself scarce and go be happy with happy people!
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